Single & Dating

Romance is the goal.

Being in a loving, committed, romantic relationship is what you desire. Not something platonic, a hook-up, a situation-ship, or being alone – you want an honest, committed, adult relationship that is meaningful, fulfilling, and significant.

The type of relationship with mutual connection and being in love.

Such a relationship adds more happiness and purpose to your life, making you feel content.

But there are many blocks in your way to having the relationship you desire:

You’re heartbroken.

You haven’t fully gotten over your last breakup, and you’re still grieving, hurt and lonely.

You project your past hurts onto new dating relationships. This actually creates problems in the new potential relationship and pushes men away.

You’re recovering from a past relationship that was unfaithful. The betrayal and infidelity cut you really deep, and it’s hard to move on and date again.

You’re afraid.

There are so many fears. Fear of abandonment, rejection, vulnerability and intimacy.

You’re scared to put yourself out there, risk exposure, and heartbreak. It’s easier to hide and protect yourself, but you desire a loving connection with a partner so you feel sad, unfulfilled, and stuck.

You feel unloveable.

You feel so unworthy, inadequate and not good enough. Your self-esteem is low, body image is poor, and you’re insecure about yourself. You think no man will want to love you or be able to fully accept you as you are.

You’re hopeless.

Loneliness, emptiness, and desperation creep into your feelings and dating outlook. Sometimes this level of vacancy leads you to seek out any man just to fill your void. You want to learn how to find contentment in your singleness so you can start dating from a place of fullness.

The constant and unfulfilled serial dating scene makes you think there are no “good men” left out there. A guy who is mature, stable, and desires a committed relationship, just as you do, seems unrealistic. You’ve lost all hope.

You don’t know how to be in a healthy relationship.

You have unrealistic expectations of a partner and make it impossible to date. You’re so picky and perfectionistic that it’s hard to find a guy who meets your standards. And once you do start dating, you have unrealistic expectations of the relationship and you can’t stay fulfilled and take it to the next level with your partner.

You keep choosing the same emotionally unavailable men. Different faces, same type. It’s the same repeating cycle of toxic and co-dependency. You can become clingy and too needy and this pushes men away.

You struggle with commitment issues. You avoid affection, intimacy and relationships. You feel suffocated and it’s hard for you to give more than you’re willing. But deep down, you desire connection and to be in a mutual relationship.

Your desired relationship is possible.

Working in therapy can help you process past hurts, remove any blocks, and change unhealthy patterns that hold you back from a loving and committed relationship.

Finding the right relationship is possible, but it requires self-evaluation of your fears, disappointments, expectations, and views of yourself.